So here we are; coming to the end of January (finally!) with our heads still held high. Feeling productive and full of optimism for what 2018 will bring. A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post all about 12 things that I loved about 2017, which in turn motivated me to start thinking about what I want to achieve this year. I always find New Year’s Resolutions difficult and consequently set the bar too high. Not in that I set myself too many difficult and unrealistic goals (there have been some absolute corkers in the past though) but I always seem to bite off more than I can chew. So many goals, so little time. I realised that I need to be more concise with my goal setting – whittling them down to limit pressure building, enabling me to care more about the things that really matter.
I recently read two brilliant posts; this one by the lovely Rhianna and this one by Chloe. Both really resonated with me, not only because they’re beautifully written, but they left me feeling full of all of the “yasssszzzz gal! I completely relate to this on every level” kind of feels and really inspired me.
After hours of mulling and life contemplating I decided to sit down and pin point what I do and don’t want to care about in 2018. So without further adieu – here is my ‘Give A Shit’ list for 2018. It’s a bit of long one, so pour yourself a brew and pull up a pew.
I Do Want To Give A Shit About…
Pushing Myself Out Of My Comfort Zone
I mentioned this briefly in my last post, but for the past 6 months or so I’ve made a conscious effort to try and push myself out of my comfort zone. I’ve challenged myself and taken a massive leap of faith to do something that I’ve had my heart set on for a long time. Not only has this massively boosted my confidence and self belief, but I actually feel really proud of myself. This is pretty rare for me (we’re our own worst critics after all) and I want to continue on this little confidence boosting journey. I want to continue to push the boundaries that I set myself and celebrate every accomplishment (no matter how big or small). Baby steps and all that.
Self Care And Finding A Healthy, Balanced Lifestyle That Works For Me
This year I want to prioritise self love. For instance, I know I feel better when I have my hair cut and coloured, yet last year I only got it done twice. I love to read, but never seem to find the time to pick up a book. I never leave enough time to have those moments of self care – to do things that are just for me. I also want to find a healthy, balanced lifestyle that works for me.
In the past, I’ve always been a bit of an all or nothing kind of gal. Once I’m in the swing of things, I actually enjoy exercising, but I also really like food (and Prosecco). My problem is that my healthy balanced lifestyle becomes an unhealthy, very much unbalanced obsession. I’d beat myself up if I ever had a treat and would get severe anxiety over not ‘sticking to plan’, which ultimately leads to me binning it off. I’ve never found something that is healthy and sustainable. But I’m determined to find my own balance so that I can feel happy, healthy and confident in my own skin.
Capturing The Moment More And Improving My Photography
I love taking photos. I love taking photos of my home and seeing the progress that we have made over the years. I love styling and creating photos for my Instagram and blog. But most importantly, I love that we have the ability to capture a moment and smile to ourselves as we relive a memory over and over again. This year I want to really make the effort to capture the moment more. I want to get more photos of Joe & I, I want to get more photos of my family and friends – not just on Facebook or on my phone, but in frames around the flat too. I also want to improve my photography and learn to use my camera properly (I’m very much a point and shoot kind of gal). I just want to enhance every moment – every memory – in the best way possible.
Improving My Savings
Okay so I wouldn’t say that my relationship with money is awful, but in terms of my savings… Well… they’re pretty much non existent. Yes I like to buy things for the flat and occasionally treat myself to a new dress or jumper, but a lot of the time I’m not 100% sure where my money goes (okay I’m pretty sure 99% of it goes on food). So I’ve set myself a little mini goal of how much I want to save this year. I’m not getting any younger (sob!) and that dream of owning my own home some day isn’t going to pay for itself after all!
Throwing Kindness Around Like Confetti
There is enough negativity in the world, without us wanting to bring each other down too. I like to think that I’m a kind person and I would never intentionally hurt someone’s feelings. But there are times where I may have been caught up in my own life and haven’t realised the effect that could possibly have had on someone else. So I want to make an effort to be more compassionate and kind (as Rhianna says, it never hurts to be kinder). I want to ring people because I miss them and simple want to check in, I want to send thoughtful messages to someone just to make their day. I want to share more accounts that I love online and continue to show my support in any way that I can and celebrate each others achievements. We all have our own small victories after all!
I Don’t Want To Give A Shit About…
I know, I know, it’s not all about the numbers. But I would be lying if I said that it didn’t bother me. I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t have the Followers app and looked at who unfollowed me/ how many followers I’ve lost each day. But I need to delete the app and stop giving so much of a shit about the numbers – for my own sanity more than anything. I’m lucky to have so many amazing people around me who do enjoy my content and who are always so so supportive and I’m incredibly grateful for that. So I’ve decided that I want to focus more on posting the kind of content that I love – the kind of content that reflects both my style and my personality. At the end of the day, I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. As long as I’m happy and feel proud of what I’m doing, then really that’s all that matters.
Jealousy And Comparing Myself To Others
Leading on from my previous point, I really don’t want to give a shit about feeling jealous of people and desperately want to stop playing the comparison game. In ‘real life’, I’m not a jealous person (I’m more of a ‘you do you boo’ kind of gal). But for some reason, when it comes to this little online world, something seems to come over me and I’ve found myself staring at the green eyed monster all too often.
I didn’t realise the extent of this until a couple of months ago. I found that I was consistently getting caught up in comparing myself to others – forever thinking that I’m not good enough. I decided to take a step back and I realised that I was getting all consumed in this toxic mindset and consequently acting in a way that just wasn’t me. So I simply decided to let go. And honestly it’s like a massive weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. After all, you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.
The Girls And Not Having ‘The Dream’ Figure
Okay so anyone that knows me will vouch for me when I say that my relationship with the girls has never been a positive one. When I was younger I had a real complex about it and would cry whenever I had to get measured. But as I’ve got older I’ve started to learn to accept both myself as a person and my body (girls and all!). So I’ve decided that I want to give less of a shit and stop beating myself up about not having ‘the dream’ figure and work more on improving my confidence and being less ashamed of the girls.
Wanting To Do Everything And My Obsession With Being Busy
Note to self: you are only human and unfortunately you just can’t do it all. Last year I constantly burnt the candle at both ends and it definitely had a massive effect on me, physically and mentally. I never left enough time to relax. I always felt the need to be doing something and if I wasn’t I would feel guilty and beat myself up about it.
As you may know, I recently started my new job and I want to start as I mean to go on. I want to make sure that I don’t fill the extra time that I have doing even more. I want to make sure that I’m leaving enough time to relax and ensure that I’m getting a good night sleep regularly. I admit that I do like to be busy, but I desperately need to take some time out from time to time and basically just give myself a break.
Being Unapologetically Me
Anyone who knows me will vouch for the fact that I am a self confessed people pleaser and over thinker. But one thing I’ve noticed recently is how much people like to remind me of that. Granted they’re not the most positive traits to have, but with every flaw comes beauty too. And I want to get to the point in my life where I truly accept myself for who I am, unapologetically – flaws and all. I am a people pleaser, I am an over thinker. But I’m also very loyal, I love to make people laugh and always try my best to be a good friend. I love deeply – with my whole heart and more. I’m me. After all, it’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.